“Chip, did you take Drake to the grocery store without any clothes on?” – Joanna Gaines
Demo day is Chip’s favorite day. Tearing the house up and ripping it down. Joanna’s favorite day is when the house is done, everyone leaves and she’s alone to decorate and make it come to life. Fixer Upper is one of the favorite show’s in our home.
As we finish our series on the DISC, I want us to take a look at this couple. After reading the descriptions of the different styles what do you think their styles are?
Chip is fun first. It’s all about creating an experience no matter what he’s doing at work and at home. He’s constantly making people laugh and has a hard time focusing, especially during a conversation. He’s a get it done guy and he’s having a good time doing it. I believe Chip is an I/D in the DISC profile.
Joanna is more serious, wants to get things done and done right. She’s doesn’t need all the craziness, but loves and appreciates her husband. She’s not the joking type, but can have fun. She keeps Chip and everyone else on track to make sure things get done on time. She’s not afraid to deliver bad or disappointing news. It doesn’t mean she enjoys it, but she doesn’t seem to have a problem doing it and notice she doesn’t beat around the bush. I think Joanna is a C/D/S in the DISC profile.
They make a great team and complement each other very well and they are a great example of different styles working together. Their D’s work well together, Chip is going to make it fun and Joanna makes sure it’s done right. As you learn more about the DISC, you can grow in your understanding by looking and listening to people in some of your favorite shows. What profile are they? What characteristics are you seeing?
Sadly, I work with couples that have been married for 20 + years and they are no longer close, connected or communicating. That doesn’t mean that they’re not talking, or spending time together, but there isn’t a closeness. Too often they decide to call it quits. When I talk or work with them it comes down to not understanding each other, not adjusting for the way the other one is wired and finally not caring.
D’s can come across as demanding, uncaring, hot headed and cold.
I’s can come across as superficial, undependable and non-committed.
S’s can come across as not interested, unengaged and distant
C’s can come across as critical, judgmental and closed minded.
This is NOT how they are, but they can come across this way. That’s why it’s important to know your style, know or identify someone else’s and then adjust for them and treat them the way THEY want to be treated.
These same dynamics happen in business too. Leaning into and leveraging the DISC can help improve ALL your relationships.
We need all four styles in our life and business. They bring balance and health, but they will also bring tension. The tension is healthy and needed IF we understand it. If not, it will feel wrong and unwanted.
One more thing I want to touch on:
Explanation NOT an Excuse: The DISC is an explanation, NOT an excuse. It explains why you might “appear” or “function” one way or another, but it doesn’t excuse you for being that way.
Start putting the DISC to use in your life right now. Re-read this series and begin to identify the style of the people in your home, life and work. Now how can you adjust for them?
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